When Is It Time To End a Toxic Relationship?

Question: I feel like I keep making excuses for my boyfriend’s bad behavior, but I’m just not sure where to draw the line. How do I know when enough is enough?

Alan’s Advice: Here’s the truth: if you’re asking this, your gut already knows something isn’t right. If you feel drained, anxious, or like you’re always walking on eggshells, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩

A “toxic” relationship is one where you feel worse about yourself because of the way your partner treats you. It’s when the relationship brings more stress and pain than happiness and support.

When your guy is always putting you down, blaming you for everything, or acting controlling, that’s not love—it’s manipulation. If you catch yourself hiding things from friends or family because you know they’d worry about what’s happening, that’s another warning sign.

Making excuses for him won’t fix the problem. Real love builds you up, not tears you down. If you’re always the one apologizing or trying to “make it work,” take a step back and give things some careful thought.

Ask yourself: Do I feel safe, respected, and happy most days? If the answer is no, it’s probably time to let go.

You need someone who treats you well—no excuses, no drama. Your future self will thank you for choosing peace over chaos. 💗