Can Long Distance Really Work?

Question: My boyfriend and I are about to be long distance for a year. Is it realistic to think we can make this work?

Alan’s Advice: Going long distance isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible either. Plenty of couples have done it and come out even stronger. You both need to be on the same page about what you want and where you’re headed. Honest conversations are key—about trust, expectations, and how often you’ll talk or visit.

It’s normal to miss each other, and sometimes it’ll feel lonely. But don’t let that push you into doubting your relationship right away.

The real test is how you both handle the distance. Can you talk about your day? Support each other from far away? Trust each other, even when you’re not together?

The couples who make it work are the ones who keep showing up, even when it’s hard. If you both want this, set some ground rules and check in often about how you’re feeling.

A couple of things that can really help:

• Set a countdown or plan for your next visit together. Having a date on the calendar gives you both hope and something to look forward to.
• Schedule regular video calls, even if they’re short. It helps you both feel connected and involved in each other’s lives.

One last thing: focus on building your own life, too. A healthy relationship can handle time apart. If your connection is strong, distance doesn’t have to be the end—it can actually be a new beginning of something beautiful. 💌🌎